我有个可爱的学生，还在念中学而已，在聊天的当儿她突然问我。。
student says: How do u control yourself when u miss him?
min says: oh.. do things lor..
min says: work lor.
student says: but
min says: call him lor..
student says: what if u cant control to think?
min says: call him then.. hehe..
student says: haha unfortunately..
student says: How am i goin to focus on study when my mind is all over him?
student says: i dont like it..
min says: haha..
min says: yah lor.. that's y ppl said when study better dun pak tor..
是啊，回想一下我以前就因为外婆的教导与叮咛，所以中学时期蛮排斥谈恋爱的。是到了大学被追得轰轰烈烈，搞到整个大学都知道，才开始接受第一段恋情的。然而那只是人生缩短版，只有昙花一现，不到两个月就告吹了。虽然我们谈不上有感情，也不过一起出去吃个饭一两次而已，可是还是很沮伤的啊！！会一直觉得自己到底做错了什么？那时侯的成绩也向股市里的熊市走向那样的一落千丈。
我记得有个大学同学跟我说过，希望可以谈一次恋爱就可以一世，所以想跟我打听确认一下某男同学的为人。我极其赞同，我想那是很多女孩的初衷吧！！
之后的之后，他说，那是其实是对我好，教导我面对。或许吧，之后的之后，我也就自然而然的提醒自己对感情方面要尽量学会看开。
父母和孩子
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Min: Some is true, but some is not true. So you frightening until now? How do you overcome or trying to overcome this?
Min, i reli not idea about what girl's thinking when i do not think there is any stuff happen here, but will be a sudden bomb or cold war. Actually what a girl worry or frightening about when she had a bad experience with her love one then we come back in the relationship again? How long it taken for the recovery? How can i help her to recover on it?
heart pain must heal with heart method.
U cannot change the past, and u shouldnt, keep looking forward, treat her nicer in future is what you can do now.
hmm, i think normally when there is a sudden bomb or cold war, that must be something that trigger that, no matter is big or might be just a small matter, but the girl is actually expect more care and concern from her bf.
如果你可以给予足够的安全感，她就不会觉得担心与害怕吧？？只要她知道你是在乎她的就会让她有安全感吧？不过纯属个人认为而已哦。。
Thank you so much.
Eugene: U cannot change the past, and u shouldnt, keep looking forward, treat her nicer in future is what you can do now.
Yes, agree with that too. I will treat her nicer in future. Hope i am a good man to take care of her.
Min: 如果你可以给予足够的安全感，她就不会觉得担心与害怕吧？？只要她知道你是在乎她的就会让她有安全感吧？
This is the point, but what it mean of those 安全感? I know she lack of this feeling, but how can i give her?
在乎她..对她好..时刻让她感受到你的爱。。就是这样吧？？！！
Min, 那就是说时时刻刻让她感觉我对她的爱？多多关心她，一起分享，让她感觉我什么时候都在她身边？最重要的是让她觉得我愿意和她分享一切，她的一切我都关心？(May be i always let my girl felt that i was easily fan and annoying)
我有向这方向走，但还在努力当中。
Isn't this is what you meant or you have other idea to better improvement? Girl think a lot, sometime a man is hard to get what a girl reli wanna from a man. What they said is difference from what they thinking. 口是心非，女人心海底针?May be 用心去体会才能更好。
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